This project begins with a refusal: to treat unpleasantness as a flaw in need of correction. Instead, it treats it as a practice: sometimes chosen, sometimes thrust upon a woman by the simple fact of her refusal to disappear or agree.
Each file in this archive holds a portrait and a question:
How has your unpleasantness already served you and others?
The question is deliberately past tense. Because she already has been and she knows the cost. But she also knows what it gave back; to herself, to society, her kids, other women, to a room that needed one person to say the thing no one else would say.
A file, by definition, is a record. It holds evidence. It is kept. These files are an act of keeping what has too often has been discarded as difficult, dismissed as shrill or hysterical, deleted from the official account of who counts as a good woman.
These files insist that the unpleasantness was and - now more than ever - IS, in fact, the point.
And that the women described as difficult or inconvenient were and still are - now more than ever and more often than not - simply the first ones to notice something was wrong. And impolite enough to say so out loud.
Artist
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TCM Nutritionist
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www.seelenkueche.at
Artist, Activist, Scientist
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Activist, Author, Communication Expert
For me, “unpleasantness” as a woman in a patriarchal society means being direct, saying what I think, and living the way I want. It is precisely this directness that has saved me—not just once, but countless times—from unintentionally locking myself into an (invisible) cage out of politeness, conforming to gender stereotypes, or “because that’s just the way it’s supposed to be.” This directness, along with frequently voicing my anger without regard for my own image—far too many women want to please and speak strictly in the subjunctive—has de facto become the foundation of my activist work. I love that I can be free. Though, I don’t call it being unpleasant; I call it being unapologetic. Unapologetically me. Always.
https://nunukaller.com/
https://upliftnow.at/
Trainer, Human Rights Consultant
If I understand ‘unpleasantness’ as moments of discomfort, friction or exclusion, I would say these experiences have fundamentally shaped both my perspective and my work.
On a personal level, they have sharpened my sensitivity to what often remains unspoken – the subtle ‘in-between spaces’ where inequality or bias quietly unfold. This has given me not only awareness, but also a sense of attentiveness and responsibility: to notice, to name and to question.
For others, this translates into how I work: creating spaces where people feel seen in their complexity, where difficult conversations can happen without immediate defensiveness, and where discomfort becomes a starting point for reflection.
In that sense, what was once unpleasant has become a resource – not romanticised, but something that informs my commitment to equity, dialogue and social change, and allows me to bridge perspectives and hold tension.
www.melindatamas.com
Artist
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